I get questions from lots of progressive women who “date” a lot, that you would think would be sexually secure, but who still get caught up in moralizing their sexuality. Most of them are well-adjusted and healthy. They just believe they should have the opportunity to sleep around like many men have throughout the eons. Unfortunately, our culture does not yet positively reinforce strongly sexual women. The brunt of the myth is to somehow be sexually tantalizing but withhold sexually for the one right person. Not marrying and instead dating around can even be negatively reinforced through the comments of friends family, often regarding their fears of you becoming an “old maid”.
But since many people often feel threatened by a woman with strong sexual prowess, they don’t yet have vocabulary that reaches beyond the term of “slut”. Slut shaming has become the norm.