May 30, 2012
Sex Toy Novice
New to toys? Try a few of these suggestions to make your first experience memorable!
Relax. Don’t worry about what you should or shouldn’t be doing with your toy, or whether you’re doing it right. Experiment; try using it all over your body and see what feels good.
Go solo. Play with your toy alone before introducing it into couples play, this way you learn what feels good and can show your partner.
Try one toy that does several things. Instead of committing to one type of toy, try a toy that vibrates and is insertable, or one that can be used in a harness and for anal stimulation. You might find that you really like to use your new G-spot vibrator for stimulating your nipples.
Start small. When buying a toy for insertion, it’s better to err on the small side. If it’s too big you probably won’t play with it, but a toy that’s a little too small can still bring hours of enjoyment.
Use lube. Lubricant makes everything more slippery, and will undoubtedly make any sex toy experience more enjoyable. A toy that feels too big or vibrates too strongly might feel just right with the addition of a little lube.
Be realistic. A sex toy might not save your marriage, or be a surefire orgasm machine — but they are a fun way to expand your sexual repertoire and learn more about your body and your pleasure potential.
If at first you don’t succeed… Try again. If one sex toy doesn’t thrill you, use that experience to decide what you do want the next time around: different size, stronger vibration, softer material. Testing several different toys is the best way to find what works.
Use resources. Books and videos can be a great way to learn how to incorporate toys into your sex play.
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