Lack of lube or using the wrong lube is one of the most common problems many women have during intercourse. When caught up in the pleasure of the moment, the thought of having to stop the momentum to explain to one’s partner the need for lube can be daunting. It can also cause some men to think that you are not turned on enough. And then there’s the fumbling around to find the darn thing, opening it and spreading it on It all seems like such a huge task that it’s s just better to risk going a little dry, right? Uh-uh, bad idea!
90% of all women experience some sort of pain with intercourse during their lifetime. The friction of dry skin to dry skin can be attributed to either not using any lube or not choosing the right lube for their needs. The correct lube can change any sexual experience from discomfort and pain to extreme pleasure.
Understanding the process of lubrication:
Lubrication occurs when your brain interprets that you are turned on and sends a message to increase blood-flow into the pelvis, signaling the mucous membranes in the walls of the vagina to secrete a liquid — your natural lube. Liquid literally seeps from the bloodstream through the walls to the vagina. It is a process analogous to the erection and lubrication of the penis. Being dependant on blood-flow (along with many other processes in your body), lubrication can be affected by stress, pregnancy, nursing, menopause and even dehydration. It can also be affected by drugs such as decongestants and hormonal birth-control.
Because of the many factors that can affect it, natural lubrication does not automatically correspond with mood. A woman may report feeling horny and yet be completely dry. Another woman may lubricate profusely without any sexual thought or stimulation.
Find the right lube:
There are hundreds of lubes on the market. Some are thin, and others are thick, or long- lasting, waterproof, organic, or even flavored. has tons of tunes to choose from.
Tip: A small amount of water or saliva can rejuvenate a sticky or drying lube.
Use: Look for:
Vaginal intercourse Glycerin free
Anal intercourse/play A thicker lube
Fisting A thicker lube
Toy Use – Silicone Non-silicone-based lubes
Toy Use – Non-silicone Any lube
Playing in water A silicone based lube
Oral sex A flavored lube
Questions to Ask Yourself:
- I get a lot of yeast infections –
- Don’t use any lube with any form of sugar in it
- Look out for “Glycerin-free” ingredients Stuff
- Use products containing hemp
- My natural lube is too thin, it dries out quickly
- My natural lube is too thick, it gets sticky
- I like to only use natural products on my body
- I like to have a long lasting lube
- I like to have a lube that washes off easily
Natural Vaginal Lubrication
Women lubricate differently at different times of their lives (lubrication decreases with age), each day (women will lubricate 4 to 6 times in an 8-hour sleep-cycle), and of the month (see below). One of the most dramatic changes of vaginal secretions occurs during the menstrual cycle.
Color Consistency Normal for :
Clear Stretchy Ovulation; Sexual Stimulation
Milky Creamy Pre-ovulation
White Sticky, curdlike Post-ovulation
Brownish Watery and Sticky Last day of period