May 30, 2012
Dr. Kat’s Guide to Tantric Kissing
Tantra is the 3000-year-old spiritual practice that incorporates methods of sexual enlightenment through the ancient writings of the Kama Sutra. Learning the art of Tantric kissing can open new doors to sensuality and foreplay. A kiss is therefore not just a kiss. There are a plethora of ways to experience one of the world’s favorite ways of bonding and showing affection.
Kissing helps create excitement and builds arousal. Some feel kissing is even more intimate than the sexual act itself. Kisses can be placed anywhere on the body and can be especially powerful when placed at the various chakra points of the body <link to chakra article>. But let’s focus on the most obvious place to kiss – the lips. In all instances it is best to begin with the facial muscles fully relaxed. Allow you and your partner to have some quiet time. Perhaps schedule a date at home where there will be an evening of kissing only. This can increase arousal by removing the requirement for sex. It can also allow you to focus only on the sensations of kissing and being kissed – without distraction from your other favorite body parts. Then you can later incorporate what you’ve learned into sex play.
The Kama Sutra first discusses the types of kisses…
Nominal Kiss
This is termed a nominal kiss because it is limited to lip contact only. One partner’s mouth stays relaxed and closed while the other actively kisses with an open mouth.
Vibrant Kiss
The partner with the relaxed closed mouth allows the other partner to gently insert their top lip into the other’s mouth.
Rubbing Kiss
The active kisser rubs the other lover’s lips with their tongue.
Ways to kiss…
Equal
Face to face with equal lip activity.
Crosswise
Turning the head slightly, the lips are caught in one another’s mouths by making them round.
Reverse
One partner is seated behind, catching the head and cheeks and turning them toward the lover behind, sucking the lips.
Pressed
When the lips are pressed close together in any of the previous mentioned kisses.
The Fifth Hold
Pressing the lips very closely, bringing the fingertips together and pressing the cheeks, then pressing the lips together without letting the teeth touch.
Other variations of ways to experiment include…
Breath play while kissing
Purposely inhale and exhale while kissing.
Biting
Either gently or more forcibly biting one another’s lips.
Licking
This includes the lips and the teeth and gums of your lover.
Tongue Combat
Literally tongue wrestling (or French kissing a we all know it).
Sucking
Suck the tongue and then the top or bottom lip of your partner.
The purpose and time of kissing
The Kama Sutra outlines that kissing can be inspired to “inflame” a lover while sleeping to begin sexual play, “encourage” a lover who is having a bad day or depressed mood or “awaken” a lover upon returning home. Lovers are encouraged to vary their kissing from slow and soft to hard and fast. The point is that over the course of your kissing session that you can vary your technique so much that you don’t even repeat a particular type of kiss.
Expanding your kissing repertoire is one way to enrich your sexual experiences and make kissing a conscious activity – that’s the main difference between non-Tantric kissing and kissing. The fact that you are being completely conscious and focusing the activity through specific energy is what makes it such a profound experience. There are several ways in which you can move from conventional kissing to more Tantric kissing. You might want to surprise your partner by having them completely relax their facial muscles and allow you to practice these techniques on them without responding. Or you can both set that kissing date and take turns. You might also want to find a Tantric kissing class in your geographic area. Tantric kissing is an activity that can be played out with much love and enthusiasm. The Kama Sutra says that no Tantric kiss should be left unreturned. After your kissing practice session you’ll have more ways to return the favor.
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