I’ve recently gotten a few e-mails asking about surgical penis enlargement. The first thing I have to say is let’s slow down here. There are so many options to discuss before even mentioning surgery.
Some guys who say they suffer with smaller than average penises say that they compensate by developing “other” talents, such as more clitoral stimulation with his hands, toys or through oral sex. Many women have told me over the years that some of their best lovers had the smallest penises. But I won’t pretend that size doesn’t matter, because as non-politically correct as it is, to many women it’s just not the same. They crave a sensation of “fullness”, vaginally. However, if you are with someone who is the love of your life, but who just happens to have a smaller than desired penis, I would suggest you work it out on your end. Frankly, it’s your issue — not his. Everyone is responsible for their own orgasms and sexual bliss. Requiring your lover to go under the knife seems preposterous to me.
Talk it Over
But, you do need to talk about this with your partner. If it was enough of a concern for you A) to write to me with this question, and B) to even consider asking him to have a painful, expensive surgery that usually has poor results, then this issue needs to be brought out into the open. Hopefully, you’ve already laid the groundwork for honest discussions about sexuality. Be tactful and sensitive, as a guy usually doesn’t want to hear that he’s not satisfying you. And please don’t make it about what he can’t give you – his ego will probably be bruised enough already. Take responsibility for this as your issue, not as something that is wrong with him. Then look for solutions to give you the sensation you’re looking for.