Give the low down. Really take time to dialogue about your medical condition and physical limitations. Your partner needs to not only know what feels good but what doesn’t and why. You may choose to invite him or her to a doctor’s appointment to talk about your current status or the progression of your disability. This way you can begin to engage in sex that is satisfying to both partners without the partner being constantly concerned that they are hurting you.
Focus on what you can do. Everyone needs to learn about their new partner’s body. Don’t make it all about the person who has the disability. Engage in an exchange of information that levels the playing field between you both. Being positive about giving and receiving pleasure will be of benefit to you both. You can create a satisfying and fulfilling sex life no matter what your physical limitations may be.
Everyone has baggage. Everyone has challenges they have to deal with in relationships, whether it’s depression, past abuse or simply not being into certain behaviors and positions, there should always be a sense of negotiation. Establishing good communication early in the relationship will help you build a stronger foundation as a couple. It can also help you prepare to deal with bigger, more sensitive topics as your relationship matures.