Dear Dr. Kat,
My girlfriend and I have decided to try anal sex for the first time. What do we need to know?
Thanks,
Bobby
Dear Bobby,
Anal sex can truly be a great experience for a couple. It’s a nice way to mix things up every now and then and it can actually lead to a heightened sense of intimacy between the two of you. First things first though…
* Be prepared. Don’t wait until the heat of the moment to get lubes, condoms etc lined up before the action commences.
* Take your time. Going too fast at first can actually hurt your girlfriend. Go slow.
* Use your fingers first. Get her used to the sensation by fingering her.
* Lube it up. The anus doesn’t secrete much of its own lubrication so be sure to have some on hand.
* Communicate. Make sure she is giving you feedback on how it feels. Stop or slow down if she asks you.
* Don’t forget the clit. Attention to the clitoris either with a sex toy or one of your own hands will help her relax into it and maybe even have an orgasm (yippee).
* Clean as a whistle. Some people feel the need to do enemas prior to anal sex but in actuality that usually isn’t needed. There tends to be very little if any fecal debris that close to the anal opening. Just scrub well if you are worried about hygiene.
*Don’t pull your penis fully in and out at first. It tends to be more comfortable for novices if you penetrate with your penis in her the whole time versus pulling it out completely with each thrust.
Well, there you go Bobby. You are on your way to a successful session of anal lovemaking. Have fun!
Sincerely,
Dr. Kat